{"id":3871,"date":"2018-10-17T13:17:28","date_gmt":"2018-10-17T07:47:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/?p=3871"},"modified":"2018-10-17T13:20:30","modified_gmt":"2018-10-17T07:50:30","slug":"you-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/you-too\/","title":{"rendered":"You Too"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"harvard\"<\/p>\n

The fact that even someone like her needed to say this shows us how difficult it is for women to navigate and succeed in what is,\u00a0essentially, even now, a man\u2019s world.<\/p>\n

All systems that matter\u2014law, justice, executive, police, judiciary, medicine, economics, culture, religion —all have been created with the default being Male. (That too a Heterosexual Male, and on the world stage-\u00a0 a White Heterosexual male)<\/p>\n

All frameworks, rules and restrictions are mainly for \u2018others\u2019.<\/p>\n

Even universal ones like \u2018thou shalt not have sex before marriage, for example, is \u2018enforceable\u2019 only on women since men cannot, and do not ever need to prove virginity before marriage, whether it is by a humiliating finger test<\/a> or an equally embarrassing stained sheet after the wedding night.<\/p>\n

Men are never accused of infertility, they do not end up having to sneak into back-alleys to get unsafe abortions. When they get married no one asks them at every subsequent job interview how they will balance work and childrearing. No one expects them to put family first and jobs second. No one asks questions when they come home late at night.<\/p>\n

Here are some fun statistics for India:<\/p>\n

India sees over 30,000 rape cases, yet\u00a0only 1 in 4 convicted<\/a>.<\/p>\n

And before you start saying women should not go out to work, go out to party, go out using public transport, etc etc, if they want to be safe, check this out:<\/p>\n

\u201cDelhi Police Commissioner B S Bassi said<\/a> 70 per cent of the perpetrators in rape cases belonged to the age group of 21-35 years. \u201cCrime-mapping analysis of the city suggested that any woman in a locality is surrounded by between 250 and 400 men who would not think twice before assaulting a woman. Added Bassi. \u201c\u2026 almost 39 per cent of the rapes were committed by friends and family members\u2019 friends, something which cannot be prevented by the police.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

If you have ever created an environment in which people find it acceptable to think that rape is the woman\u2019s fault then #YouToo have contributed to that rape.<\/p>\n