{"id":3387,"date":"2015-12-22T17:34:45","date_gmt":"2015-12-22T12:04:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/?p=3387"},"modified":"2015-12-22T17:34:45","modified_gmt":"2015-12-22T12:04:45","slug":"understanding-myself-my-sexuality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/understanding-myself-my-sexuality\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding myself, my sexuality"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Yashoda Dhaakal<\/p>\n<p>I am a young, enthusiastic graduate nurse. I have never known fully about issues of sex and gender and never considered them important. I never talked about it with my friends. I never thought that discovering the meaning of sexuality will make such a huge difference in me regarding my own body. To know that sexuality is the way of expressing myself in terms of emotions, desires, pleasure and the way I look towards my own body.<\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3389\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/understanding-myself-my-sexuality\/yashoda-image-4\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-4.png\" data-orig-size=\"868,588\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Yashoda Image 4\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-4-300x203.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-4.png\" class=\"wp-image-3389 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-4.png\" alt=\"Yashoda Image 4\" width=\"425\" height=\"288\" srcset=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-4.png 868w, https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-4-600x406.png 600w, https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-4-300x203.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 425px) 100vw, 425px\" \/>When I was graduating I was in a circle who never spoke about sex or sexuality. Though I never thought sex by mutual consent was a big issue, still I did have the feeling that if something goes wrong, the girl would be punished for not being honest about it to her family.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3392\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/understanding-myself-my-sexuality\/yashoda-images\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Images.png\" data-orig-size=\"259,197\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Yashoda Images\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Images.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Images.png\" class=\" wp-image-3392 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Images.png\" alt=\"Yashoda Images\" width=\"340\" height=\"259\" \/>I always wondered what is the matter with society, even educated people,when a young adult girl decides to live in her own way, have a partner of her own choice or have pre \u2013marital sex, when that same society allows<br \/>\nher to suffer gender discrimination, sexual violence and feel like she is dying many times before her death.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>After participating in the YAI and having such wonderful sessions regarding gender, patriarchy, sexuality and SRHR, I can now answer myself.<\/p>\n<p>This shame and stigma is a product of a patriarchal society and I am a part of it as well.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3391\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/understanding-myself-my-sexuality\/yashoda-image-2\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-2.png\" data-orig-size=\"375,143\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Yashoda Image 2\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-2-300x114.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-2.png\" class=\"size-large wp-image-3391 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-2.png\" alt=\"Yashoda Image 2\" width=\"375\" height=\"143\" srcset=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-2.png 375w, https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-2-300x114.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 375px) 100vw, 375px\" \/>This Institute helped me to recognise that\u00a0and steady my wandering thoughts. Now I am inspired to be an agent of change!<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-3.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3390\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/understanding-myself-my-sexuality\/yashoda-image-3\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-3.png\" data-orig-size=\"285,327\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Yashoda Image 3\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-3-261x300.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-3.png\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3390\" src=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-3.png\" alt=\"Yashoda Image 3\" width=\"285\" height=\"327\" srcset=\"https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-3.png 285w, https:\/\/asap-asia.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Yashoda-Image-3-261x300.png 261w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 285px) 100vw, 285px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Yashoda Dhaakal I am a young, enthusiastic graduate nurse. I have never known fully about issues of sex and gender and never considered them important. I never talked about it with my friends. I never thought that discovering the meaning of sexuality will make such a huge difference in me regarding my own body. 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